You see him on Sunday morning well
dressed in his three piece suit and
looking freshly anointed. The picture you
see is that of a cherub, who has just
arrived from the heavens with a message
for the people and would be back there
soon after.
Once he starts to preach, the
congregation is overwhelmed with the
awe he exudes. Because this is all they
know about him, some followers believe
that is all about the pastor.
Ask some Christians and they will bet
their life savings that their pastors have
never visited the toilet, not to talk of
having séx. Where on earth do they have
the time for such “things”, they seem to
assert in illusion.
But ‘Pastors crave more séx than
others’…
The pastor is perhaps the most
misunderstood and over-rated being on
earth today. He is rated as a semi-god,
incapable of enjoying the pleasures that
life presents him. This is so because he
rarely talks to his adherents about other
areas of his life.
Bosede Olusola-Obasa of PUNCH, asked
some pastors and pastors’ wives if they
have erotic feelings and séxual closeness
with their spouses like other people.
They said the illusion that pastors don’t
have séx life only lies in the minds of few
ignorant congregants.
“Séx is a beautiful gift from God within
the marriage context. It is not possible
for my husband not to have séx. He feels
the same way other men feel because he
is human. It is the food of our marriage
just as food is to the body. We make it a
regular affair because the absence of it
can negatively affect our relationship and
even his work as a pastor,” said Pastor
(Mrs.) Kemi Olofinkua of the New
Anointing Deliverance Church, Anifowose,
Ikeja, Lagos.
She said that both she and her husband
do not take séx for granted because
starving one another could cause a
scandal, especially if not properly
managed.
She said that she seldom turned down
her husband’s invitation because strange
women would willingly offer themselves if
allowed.
Olofinkua said, “People who think pastors
don’t have séx must be funny. No matter
the level of anointing, a pastor needs his
wife at home. The difference between a
pastor and other men is that he can
cope whenever his work demands that
he abstains from séx .
“But it is dangerous to make him burn
with desire for séx without satisfying it
with his wife. If this happens, he could
be pushed out into the waiting arms of
many others because pastoral work
usually endears pastors to people – men
and women. As a pastor’s wife, I don’t
take my husband’s séxual need for
granted. When he beckons, no matter
how tired I am, I don’t turn him down.”
Similarly, Pastor Mrs. Shade Toyin-
Kehinde said it is a fallacy to think or
say that pastors don’t have séx with
their wives.
She said, “Pastors are not woods. It is
the same with pastors as it is for other
men. Séx is an integral part of every
marriage. It is anti-god to wish it away.
A healthy, regular séx is important to
pastors because it makes them to
maintain focus and avoid falling on the
laps of other desperate women, who
wish to have them because of the glory
on them .”
She said that she makes it a point of
duty to ‘serve’ her husband, especially
after he has done great spiritual exploits,
adding that a pastor who has a poor
séxual relationship with his wife would
engage in extra-marital affairs.
